It’s 10am, I’m surrounded by dresses and I have not a penny in the bank. In fact I have less than a penny, £20,000 less of pennies. Can I survive as an independent designer maker?
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A Little background … I have a degree in Fashion and textile design, being a designer or an artist was all I ever wanted to do since I was ten. I chose the right GCSE’s, the right A-Levels. I went to Uni a year early, I stayed at the same university and studied fashion.
However, I was stubborn. I wanted to do it all my own independent way. This may be an only child complex.
I met an amazing person who is now an amazing husband, my Mum got ill and I didn’t want to move away so I wanted to be an independent designer living in Somerset. The middle of Somerset with 0.5kbps Internet speeds.
I worked in vintage clothing, my speciality for a few years and then when I had enough money I went out alone setting up my business designing bespoke dresses online in 2009, making them and sending them out to customers.
First mistake. Bespoke.
People quickly asked for wedding dresses and I said ‘yes, of course’. I was very easy to flatter. All it took was someone to say they just wanted one of my dresses and I would literally be paying them for that flattery.
Second mistake. Too easily flattered.
Requests came in, I was making wedding dresses for £150. I was scared of asking for too much.
Third Mistake. Letting people take advantage. (yes there are many, many more)
I increased the prices as I gained confidence but still only to £300 a wedding dress, including fittings. And there were many, many fittings and adjustments.
Fourth Mistake. Too many fittings for free. Time is money.
I increased the prices more, designed a great collection and charged what I thought was properly.
But people asked for discounts, fabric costs a lot and £1,500 over 8 months (the average time a bride would like to take for fittings, loosing weight, all the rest) isn’t enough to pay the rent.
Things started to fray badly last year, I was working on brides dresses that I hated. They weren’t my designs but the butchered remains of brides wants.
Fifth Mistake for not just saying no, but would you say no to a bride?
I cried, I wanted to cut my hands, off, hit them with a hammer anything to not have to work on another wedding dress.
I truly thought that if I died at least I wouldn’t have to see another bride. It would be over.
Instead of slashing my wrists and writing messages to the brides who sucked away every last breath of my creativity, in my blood, I wouldn’t take on any more bespoke orders.
Hurrah, this wasn’t a mistake!
However, when a bride emailed on Christmas day saying she’d like a few adjustments, it got worse.
I said ‘no sorry, I’m not doing bridal anymore, please take it somewhere else, please!’
She said ‘NO sorry, I need it altered, it’s my wedding dress’. Quite normally.
I said ‘honestly, I’m quite ill I can’t work on it, please take it to another seamstress!’
At this point I had blood, wedding dresses and knives circling my head like a Stephen King film.
So this is where I’m at. I didn’t kill anyone, I don’t see brides anymore* and have spent the last six months producing some of my best work. But I’m broke.
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This blog, diary, journal whatever you call it is going to document whether I can survive as an independent designer making rather fancy dresses.
The dresses I make are vintage inspired from a fantasy world of film stars, old Hollywood and not being afraid to dress up, stand out and look magnificent.
I have two outlets to sell my goods, Etsy and my own website. I have a website, facebook and social media. I have a studio, camera, sewing machines a lot of fabric, a huge collection of vintage dresses and skills. All for Five years and £20,000
I have two emotionally supportive and loving parents and an amazing husband.
I get a little financial help from my parents as I clean their holiday cottages. Husband and me don’t share money, thankfully.
I claim no benefits and haven’t been on holiday for over two years, anywhere. Poor Me.
I really don’t want to give up just yet and want it to work independently. I have no money for advertising, PR, celebs or any of that stuff. However much they ask.
I can’t pay my rent or bills in dresses.
*the Christmas day bride was turned out to be lovely and became a great inspiration.
It was me who wasn’t cut out for brides, not them, they were truly all lovely and I had not one bridezilla. They all left happy, had wonderful wedding days and as far as I know had not an inkling of the mental torture I went through. I’m now irrationally bride phobic.
I’d need a lot more money to bend over that far again with a smile. Cleaning toilets is more fun, believe me.